If you are having MARITAL TROUBLE; are contemplating separation or divorce; have already separated or divorced; or are even contemplating re-marriage, marriage counselors are rarely successful. The majority see themselves as preparing couples for an amicable divorce. Counselors might be helpful when mental illness or addictions are the root cause. HelpOurMarriage.org for Retrouvaille (a Frecnch word meaning "rediscovery" in English) has an 80% success rate; it is a weekend program with six follow-up sessions. It is not counseling but is similar to a 12 step program. It is thoroughly Catholic and is private for the couple. Couples are not required to self-reveal in any group interaction although they may engage in some group events at their discretion.